France’s Republican Guard

Today is a big day in France. First, it’s the Fête Nationale, what we call Bastille Day, which commemorates the beginning of the French Revolution. It’s also the day France plays in the semifinals of the World Cup–allez les Bleus !

One of the highlights of the Fête Nationale is the giant parade down the Champs Élysées. My favorite part is the Republican Guard, respondent in their uniforms as they ride along on horseback.

The Republican Guard is one of those quirky institutions that France is so good at. They protect the presidential palace, greet foreign dignitaries, put on precision marching shows and historical reenactments, and even provide security for the oyster farms of Normandy! You might have seen their marching band playing (and swaying) behind Aya Nakamura during the opening ceremony of the Paris Olympics.

Learn more about the oh-so-French Republican Guard in Bonjour Paris!

A Unique French Room

I thought you might enjoy Val and I sharing our perspectives on something quite unique: the French bathroom.

Val

You know that Keith and I have been living part-time in France for quite some time.  I enjoy the differences in the lifestyle between the US and France.  Each has its strengths and weaknesses, but I try to focus on and enjoy the great sides of each culture.

And then, there is bathroom design.

A while ago we were in the lovely town of Rennes, sitting in the warm sunshine, on a charming cafe terrace, surrounded by half-timbered houses.  Before moving on to explore the town, Keith suggested we follow the age-old advice: never pass up an opportunity to visit the facilities.

Keith went first, carrying out his husbandly duties to check them out to make sure they met, well, my standards.  He reported that they passed muster and indicated that all I needed to do was walk inside and go down the stairs to find the bathroom.

Following his advice, when I made it down the narrow staircase I found myself in a very small space.  Sinks on the right, a urinoir on the left (I think it is pretty clear what this French word means) and an enclosed bathroom straight ahead, as had been described.

But what had NOT been described was that there was a man on said left… in process.

Not knowing what to do, I rushed past him, mumbling pardon monsieur, moving into the bathroom and locking the door as quickly as I could.

Wow, that was awkward!

I am looking forward to the day when urinoir doors become fashionable in France.

Keith

Take a look at this photo of our hotel room bathroom from a recent trip. It looks nice, right? But something is missing.

Look hard and you will notice…there is no shower curtain.

We find this all the time in France, a shower without a door or a curtain. Which means that when we use it, we get water everywhere. It’s a mess.

So why don’t the French use shower curtains, that’s what I want to know. Do they have special hydraulics that cause the water to bend in non-splashy ways? Do they contort themselves like circus performers, so the water only bounces back into the shower? Do their bodies absorb water in a way that causes it not to splash?

Maybe it’s like the way French people can eat croissants without getting crumbs all over. Or the way they instinctively know how to tie their scarves.

It’s a mystery.

Vignettes of Life in France

Val and I spend part of the year in France, mostly in St-Rémy-de-Provence, but we also travel around the country from time to time. I thought I would share of a few stories of what our life here is like.

Getting Sneaky

Rennes is a beautiful town, full of half-timbered houses, and also the former capital of Brittany. We stopped over for a night on the way to see some friends, and we were advised not to miss the Brittany Parliament building, which is quite beautiful inside. Unfortunately, it now houses an appeals court and when we entered, a scary armed guard informed us quite firmly that only guided tours were allowed.

We slunk outside and researched these tours, only to find there were none that day. While we were searching on our phones to decide what to do next, a lady nearby asked us where we were from. She had come outside from the parliament building to have a smoke, and we had a nice chat. Then Val and I went back to checking our phones.

While Val scrolled away, I decided to be a little sneaky and told the lady it was a shame we couldn’t see the inside, as we had come all the way to Rennes and would be leaving soon. “No problem” she said, “come in with me.”

She the proceeded to breeze past the scary armed guard (“They’re with me”) and give us a tour of the place. It was so nice! It’s good to be a little sneaky sometimes.

Cocorico!

Our place in St-Rémy is across the street from a Catholic elementary school. Every weekday, we hear kids playing outside during lunch and recess. And sometimes there are school events for the parents where we hear music and laughter and raffle numbers being called out. It’s all quite charming

We learned last year that the priest lives in an apartment attached to the school. Aha, we thought, that explains all the chickens in the yard. I guess the priest likes eggs.

This year we discovered a new resident, a rooster. I say “discovered” because we heard him before we saw him. And heard him. And heard him! This is one enthusiastic rooster. It’s cocorico all day long, which is the French equivalent of cockadoodledoo. Even our friends who live two blocks away can hear him.

But he must be a happy rooster, the only male among a bunch of hens. I imagine he wakes up every morning and says to himself, “Baby, I’m going to go forth and multiply!”

A Provençal Bottleneck

We were driving to a nearby town when we suddenly found ourselves in a long line of cars, all stopped for some reason. The road bent about 20 cars ahead so we couldn’t see what the problem was. Road work? An accident? An alien sighting?

We checked Google Maps to see how far ahead the blockage was, but it said everything was fine. That meant that whatever happened was so recent that Google hadn’t yet caught up. This ruled out road work, and we didn’t hear any sirens that would indicate an accident, so I was really hoping for that alien.

Then traffic started to move and when we got around the bend, we saw what had caused the slowdown: a shepherd had moved his flock from one side of the road to the other. But of course! This happens regularly.

Maybe we need some sheep-crossing signs.

 

Trying to Donate Blood in France

There’s a blood drive coming to St-Rémy, which reminds me of my failed attempts to donate blood in France.

The last time I tried, I ended up with the world’s meanest nurse. I had filled out all the correct forms and was ready for her questions but she was so aggressive that she made me nervous. As in terrified. This caused my normally-placid blood pressure to shoot up so high that I was disqualified. When I told my neighbor about this she said, “Oh, you got her? Bad luck, she’s a well-known connasse.” (= rude French word)

The time before this, I was rejected for insufficient command of the French language. Yes, you have to speak decent French before you can donate blood! Read my story here to find out why.

Picasso in Provence

This year’s program at Les Baux’s Carrières des Lumières features the Spanish master Pablo Picasso, perhaps the most influential artist of the 20th century. For those who haven’t been to the Carrières, it’s a must-see if you are in the area: the world’s greatest sound-and-light show, held inside a giant cavern. It’s like nothing else on earth.

The short program features Frida Kahlo, the brilliant Mexican artist, and on certain days there is also a special program dedicated to The Little Prince. Something for the whole family!

Read all about it in Perfectly Provence!

From Prison to Paris

France has a lot of literary awards, and the most prestigious is the Prix Goncourt, much like the Booker in the UK or the National Book Award in the US.

The Prix Goncourt has kind of branched out over the years, creating a second award for a book chosen by high school students. I knew this, but was still surprised to find out that there is now a third award, for a book selected by inmates in France’s prison system.

It’s an inspiring story, and the reading standards of the inmates is very high. During the process of selecting their book, they have meetings with some of the authors (in the prisons, imagine that.) One author says she loves these meetings because the inmates are such serious readers, so the meetings are of a “rare intensity.”

You can learn more about this very interesting program in France Today!

 

Life in Lyon

My friends Barbara and Joe recently returned to the US after four years of living in Lyon. They loved their time there and recently wrote a book about their experiences.

Lyon is one of those cities that many tourists never visit, yet it is rich in things to see and do. I asked Joe and Barbara to give us an introduction to the city, and tell us about their experience of moving to another country.

Why did you choose Lyon?

Lyon was already familiar to us, as we had traveled there several times. We were looking for a place where we could walk or take public transportation, as we didn’t want to own or lease a car. We also wanted to be near the outdoor activities we love – hiking and biking. Lyon is a big city with a smaller city feel. So, it has lots of cultural activities, a wonderful transportation system, fabulous restaurants and cafes, small shops and fabulous farmers’ markets, but it doesn’t feel hectic like Paris and isn’t overly touristy.

Musée des Beaux Arts

What is your favorite part of the city?

It’s probably a toss-up between the 2eme and 6eme arrondissements. The 2eme is where we rented our favorite apartment. It’s thought of as where the old, established Lyonnais families live; however, it doesn’t at all feel “stuffy.”  It is on the Presqu’île (peninsula) of the city, between the Rhône and Saône rivers.  From the Saône side, it’s very easy to walk up many flights of steps to Fourvière Hill with its imposing Basilica hovering above Lyon. There is a great farmers’ market on both Saturday and Sunday along the Saône. From the Rhône side there’s a wonderful esplanade for walking or biking all the way south to the confluence of the two rivers.

Le Parc de la Tête d’Or

The 6eme arrondissement is perhaps the wealthiest in the city. Its crown jewel is the Parc de la Tête d’Or, which is a gem in any season. The 6eme is perhaps the easiest place in which to live, as there are many shops, restaurants and cafes all in a very walkable area.

What are some of your favorite things to do in Lyon?

We love walking and stopping off for a coffee or glass of wine. We also enjoy just wandering around and discovering hidden doorways, courtyards, small museums, neighborhood parks. Frequenting neighborhood shops and going to the farmers’ markets for super fresh produce is divine.

Le Mur des Canuts (it’s a trompe-l’œil — the wall is completely flat)

Did you have favorite restaurants or cafés?

Three restaurants come to mind:

La Petite Auberge (https://lapetiteaubergelyon.fr/) We particularly like going here in nice weather and sitting out on the patio.

Têtedoie (https://tetedoie.fr/)  This is three restaurants in one building. We have eaten at the Bistro and the Rooftop, but haven’t yet tried the Michelin-starred restaurant – the next time!

The food is fabulous and the views out over Lyon are superb.

Table et Partage (https://table-et-partage.com/) A terrific restaurant in a slightly unusual location in the city. The service is impeccable, it’s quiet and the food is delicious!

Our favorite café is Momento in Croix Rousse (https://momento-coffee.fr/). Their coffee rivals the best we have had in Italy. It also has a nice ambiance with both inside and outside seating.

What are some lesser-known parts of Lyon that you really love?

We really enjoy getting bikes from the city-wide bike sharing program and riding beside the Rhône north of the Parc de la Tête d’Or. There are a number of long bike/walking paths all over the city.

City-wide bike sharing program

We also love (although it’s challenging!) climbing up the many stairways that are ubiquitous in Lyon and wandering up to the two prominent hills – Fourvière and the Croix Rousse.

Lyon has a topnotch auditorium to hear classical music (https://www.auditorium-lyon.com/en/programmation). They attract some of the best musicians in the world and tickets are very reasonably priced.

Two events that are well worth attending are:

Les Nuits de Fourvière (https://www.nuitsdefourviere.com/)– An annual dance, music and theater program held each summer at various venues around the city.

Les Nuits de Fourvière performance in the Roman amphitheater

La Fête des Lumières (https://www.fetedeslumieres.lyon.fr/en) – An annual lights festival that takes place for four days around December 8th, with creative, inspiring, wild light displays all over the city. This has become a very popular attraction that brings people from all over the world.

La Fête des Lumières

What was it like to move to another country?

It was both life-changing and also a lot of work! Luckily, we both speak French, we knew Lyon before we moved there and we had a French friend who graciously introduced us to some of his closest friends. We were sometimes discouraged by the bureaucracy (enrolling in the French health system, getting a driver’s license, renewing our visas). However, we also loved and now miss the slower pace of life, savoring time with friends, wandering around without an agenda and gaining greater fluency and comfort with the language.

What advice would you give to someone who is considering moving abroad?

  1. Make a list of your priorities for the kind of environment in which you want to live and the things you like to do.
  2. Visit a number of places and compare them with your list. Which place(s) check off the most boxes for you?
  3. Actively engage with locals and learn some of the language. People love to share their community, their culture and the best places you may not discover on your own.
  4. Make friends. This is often not easy as in general people already have their circles of friends and family with whom they spend their spare time. The French are much more reticent to open themselves up to people they don’t know, but once you make friends with a French person, they are friends for life. For this reason, don’t take friendships with French people lightly. Here are a few suggestions:
    1. Put an ad on NextDoor stating that you are looking for conversation partners.
    2. Join a club for the things you like to do. Hiking, biking, climbing, playing music or singing in a choir, flying gliders or light aircraft, Toastmasters, book clubs, film clubs, just to name a few. The list of clubs is endless.
    3. Volunteer for an association. Associations play a huge part in the lives of the French; there are 1.4 million associations in France.
  5. Don’t give in to finding other Anglophones to hang out with. Many French people will offer to introduce you to Anglophone friends, but if you spend your time plugged into the ex-pat Anglophone community you will always remain apart from French society.
  6. Give yourself some time. Take breaks. Breathe. It can be quite overwhelming, stressful and frustrating to move to a new home.
  7. Try to let go of, “But in ________________(your previous home) we do things like this…” It may be true, but it doesn’t really matter, because you’re not there any more!

If you’d like to learn more about Barbara and Joe’s experiences in Lyon, check out their excellent book Finding Our Way in France.

Book Recommendations from AI?

I love reading in French and am always looking for book recommendations. “So why not use AI?” I thought naively.  “Maybe I’ll get some good ideas.” And I did, but it wasn’t as straightforward as I expected.

I’m not an AI user, so I asked google how to write my prompt (in other words, I used AI to use AI.) The prompt listed books I had liked, then asked that they be analyzed and used to recommend five new ones.

I proposed that prompt to three popular AIs and got different answers from each. The first got confused, the second thought I like very old books, and the third just made stuff up. But I did end up with a few good book ideas.

You can read about my adventure with technology in My French Life!

 

My Conversation with Mark Greenside

A few weeks ago, I had the pleasure of interviewing author Mark Greenside for a webinar organized by My French Life. Mark and his wife Donna have lived part-time in France for decades, and we talked about what this has meant for him.

I was struck when Mark explained why he wrote his most recent book. He said that while there are lots of books written by expats, they are typically about new beginnings: someone has moved to a new country, learned new things, and begun a new adventure. But rare is the author that looks back over many years and reflects on how that has changed them. That’s what Mark’s latest book does.

It was a fun conversation, as Mark is wise, funny, and an excellent story teller. Viewers had lots of questions and Mark answered them all.

If you’d like insight into the life of someone who has really embedded himself in France–or maybe it’s the other way around–you can watch our discussion here.

 

Are the French Too Conservative?

“It’s ok to fail.”

I was struck when my French friend told me this over coffee in Palo Alto. We had been talking about her husband’s startup company—he was trying to raise new capital, and if he didn’t succeed his company would soon run out of money.

“It must be stressful,” I said, “not knowing if he’ll be able to keep his company alive.”

“Yes,” she said, “but we’ll be ok if it doesn’t work out. One of the things I’ve learned from living in the United States is that it’s ok to fail. That’s not true in France. There, if you fail you have a black mark that follows you forever.”

Are the French too conservative? Or is it more that they cherish and protect their heritage?

I share my thoughts on the subject in France Today!